Came home and wife was in our bedroom with another man

[JayKay335i]

Nah. That was a lecture on Tuesdays test. I have one on 14 lectures of digestive tract but I skipped about 10 of the 14 lectures to sleep so I haven't seen any of it yet. Its on Tuesday. He'll have to wait till Saturday for the digestive portion.

I did catch the last physio lecture on "mass movements of the colon" just before, but spent the entire class giggling.

[JayKay335i]

Incorrect topless, the first rule of manhood is never let a woman make you do stupid shit and fuck your life up.

[MediaArtist]

Wow, that's tough man. I feel for you.

[Verbiage]

Originally Posted by JayKay335i

Nah. That was a lecture on Tuesdays test. I have one on 14 lectures of digestive tract but I skipped about 10 of the 14 lectures to sleep so I haven't seen any of it yet. Its on Tuesday. He'll have to wait till Saturday for the digestive portion.

I did catch the last physio lecture on "mass movements of the colon" just before, but spent the entire class giggling.

Seems like a very dirty topic.

[Verbiage]

I'm making a sandwich.

[BillLee]

is this story even real?

i would've stone cold stunnered someone if that happened to me.

[jhv]

don't fucking derail another thread, ffs

[M3Alpine]

i dunno how u waited downstairs. My first move would have been to break down the door...ask questions later

[Verbiage]

Sorry Jh. I'm actually interested in hearing from the OP. Maybe he's been secretly reading and already acted without saying anything.

It seems like most would have asked questions later, and I cannot blame them. Makes me question the validity of this story.

[Robert]

Follow what your gut tells you. Why in the world was the door locked?!? Really?

[BTM]

Wow, I can't imagine, unfortunately I wouldn't believe a word she says. As has been said, the only reasons I can think of for two adults go to a bedroom and need to lock the door is to do drugs or do sex, or both

Commendable you did not resort to your weapon, good choice

[ideliver]

She was cheating...your move...whatcha gonna do...

A MAN is only as faithful as his options...Chris Rock

Women cheat because they want/need something they are not getting from you...several off my wife's friends have/are cheating on their husbands and 2 of my friends cheat on their wives...

BTW...you showed great restraint...

[BTM]

Originally Posted by ideliver

Women cheat because they want/need something they are not getting from you...several off my wife's friends have/are cheating on their husbands and 2 of my friends cheat on their wives...

I hope you're not implying this makes it ok. There are much healthier socially accepted ways to express dissatisfaction than fucking around on your spouse

[BMW2006]

I don't know man, that's a tough one. It's a little unfair as I've got a pretty low opinion of women in general these days. Nice long track record of being a grade -A sucker that's earned me that, admittedly it's mostly my fault.

I would consider confronting the guy (you said you know him). Say up front he's not going to lose his life and see what he says. Just go to him and say " look, if you're married or your wife is cheating on you wouldn't you want to know etc"... He's going to be the one with the least amount to lose in this (unless it's an ongoing "loves her' thing or is also married) so imo would be the most likely to divulge the truth. Conversely, your wife has the most to lose and is lying to cover the shame of cheating on you. She's ashamed of it (the locked door, I'm sorry, but unless you're having, stay-quiet don't wake the children sex most people are going to know there's some fukin' going on in the house. If you are, in fact cheating on your husband it's going to be the wild, hair pulling, all out kind and locking the door isn't going to hide anything) and is now trying to cover the shame of being the cheater, not to mention the fiscal losses of being the one who committed adultery in the divorce proceedings.

Then again, there is the possibility of the drugs, but there's no reason you can't deal over the kitchen table, why the bedroom?

Also, if your friends know all parties involved, have any of them treated your wife like shit for no apparent reason? People love to talk, it's sad but often you will be the last to know.

+1 on the not doing anything stupid. People talk a big game but noone truly knows what they would do in that situation. Say you did shoot this guy, you would then be in prison for a very long time, and your wife would end up banging other dudes anyway.

I hope for the big misunderstanding being the truth, keep us posted.

-BMW2006

[E92-Lighting]

tough one, but i would leave her, once is already too much

[tyler9595]

Oh, man that's rough. No one should have to go through that crap.

So, you've had a month to think about it...if you had to make a decision now, and keep to the golden rule (difficult), what would that decision be? That's probably the right one...if you love her, think about working it out and foregiving her. If you dont, then moving on is maybe the best thing.

Again, sorry to hear about this. That's one hell of a rough situation. But, remember its ok to hate her behavior...not ok to hate her (I know...that's easy for me to say.)

Good luck.

[Vanity]

Let's remember that this isn't some run-in-the-mill hoe he met at a party. It's the woman he dated, had a relationship with, and decided to spend his life with. It's his wife. She's obviously the woman he fell in love with.

That being said, it takes two to fuck up a relationship. Happy wives just don't go around fucking guys. To the guys who are saying they'd dump her, I think their experience comes from dumping ex-girlfriends. This is his WIFE we're talking about.

My advice is fix the large problem between the both of you(if that's even possible at this moment), or move on.

And beat the crap out of the dude who was banging your wife. That son of a bitch.

[mase]

Originally Posted by Kroy

I woulda kick the door down, snap a picture, and file for divorce.

I'm sure it'd be impossible to think straight during that situation, but that would've been the best way to come out on top. And afterward get on top of a hot twenty year old.

[haze gray]

Why have a Concealed Carry Permit if you can't intimidate in your own house. You live in Texas, right. Sorry, man

[uberschnell]

Not to rub it in, but she's doing it behind your back, in your house, on your bed. She has no respect whatsoever for you or your marriage.

As for believing her;

" one should not increase, beyond what is necessary, the number of entities required to explain anything"

In other words, the most obvious answer is often the correct one.

She may be sorry now but her concern is for her immediate needs (home, money, etc) not for you. She has no respect for you, how much more will she have when you come crawling back? You will empower her to do it again.

[silvergray545]

She's lying to you. Women are a bunch of whores. All they do is lie and cheat. If you can find one that is good, props. I've had my fair share of whores (see sig for definition) already. I've been the nice guy and yet I've still been walked all over. Fuck that.

Anyways, move on. You don't know how many other times she's already done that. There is no way in the world that she can justify locking herself in a room with another guy, IN YOUR HOUSE.

I had something similar happen to me. I walked in this girls room and saw her and another dude in bed. I closed the door and just left without saying a word. She tried calling, texting, etc. I ignored every one of them. I just straight up stopped talking to her. It drove her absolutely fuckin insane. It was hilarious. Her friends would call me and I would have a normal conversation with them. Whenever they would mention her, I would change the subject. I did wind up running into her at the mall one day. She asked me, "What the hell happen to you? You never answered my calls or texts. We never got a chance to talk about what happened." All I said was, "You have a new guy that you can talk to. You don't need me anymore." After I said that, I walked away. She started cry in the middle of the mall. Ha.

[jibaholic101]

she's a liar. if she insists she is right, ask her to take a lie detector test. she will fold like a cheap suit.

divorce the bitch immediately